When Mr Right may actually be Mr Wrong

How many times have you sat down and made a list of all the things you want in a partner? Maybe you have gone that step further and actually put pen to paper, in the attempt to find some clarity and direction in the dating world. Its funny how easy it is to list what you want in a man, without having to give it to much thought, without having to dig too deeply to uncover your true desires. However have you ever thought that it is so easy, because Mr right, may indeed be Mr Wrong? Ok lets look at this objectively, from a young age we are taught to look at life in opposites, day and night, light and dark, right and wrong, good and evil. This is how we understand the world and throughout adulthood we use this same simple philosophy to guide most of our decisions. Therefore why is choosing our perfect partner any different? We as women, choose the opposites of our worst relationships, to form the foundation of what we believe will bring us happiness. Therefore Mr Right is indirectly designed and manufactured from past scars inflicted on us by Mr Wrong. So if you had a lazy, womanising commitment phobe, Mr right will automatically need to be ambitious, faithful and emotionally aware, without thinking about ourselves and what attracted us to Mr wrong in the first place. For all we know, his failure to commit, may b a result of his flighty personality, which aside from that negative aspect, also exposed you to new experiences, unpredictability, excitement and filled you with a new lease of life. So because nostalgia in this instance, eroded all positive aspects, Mr right will not possess any of the qualities that initially lured you to Mr wrong. And if your anything like me, kept you there way after the sell by date.

What I am saying ladies, is although I am not advocating dating the same guy over and over again. Do not allow the failures of others to cloud your ability to make fair and just choices in the dating game. Be true to yourself; do not choose a straight-laced fellow because you believe he is what you need, choose a man that is a reflection of you. Mr wrong is Mr wrong for a reason, however he was in your life because he affected you positively in some way. Do not write off totally your experiences, instead handpick the positives from Mr wrong and introduce them to your Mr right list. You may be pleasantly surprised and you may also gain a greater understanding of yourself in the process. The best way to attract your partner is to be the person you want to be with. Which when you give it some though is pretty simple, as most people want an extension of who they wish they could be. Therefore find your potential, live to it everyday and you never know, Mr in-between may be waiting round the corner.